You may know Cumming as Eli Gold on The Good Wife or the actor playing TV’s first gay leading character on Instinct, but he’s also one of bisexuality’s biggest advocates. Romantically, he had an eight-year marriage to actress Hilary Lyon and a two-year relationship with actress Saffron Burrows. Now he’s married to graphic artist Grant Shaffer.
„I see a worrying trend among LGBT people, that if you identify yourself in just one way, you close yourself off to other experiences. My sexuality has never been black and white; it’s always been gray. I’m with a man, but I haven’t closed myself off to the fact that I’m still sexually attracted to women,” he told The Advocate in 2015.
“It doesn’t matter if you’re married or not, or having sex with anyone or not,” he said. “There are straight couples who don’t have sex. There are gay people who don’t have sex. But if you’re sexually attracted to both sexes, you’re bisexual.”
“This last year is when it really hit me,” he said in his coming-out video. “I always wished that I was gay, that I was 100 percent gay.”
thank u guys for the support. i know „bisexual” is something that gets made fun of & its scary to talk about it but just know u arent alone.
At the time, he also thanked lesbian YouTuber Ingrid Nilsen for opening up about her sexuality, tweeting, „Your video changed my life. Thank you Ingrid.”
After a high-profile breakup with Lisa Schwartz, he black dating sites now has settled down with boyfriend Ryland Adams. In the face of fear, he’s grown as a creator and documentarian, making the bisexual community extremely proud.
„Malcolm X’s bisexuality is more than just a question of truth and historical fact,” activist Peter Tatchell wrote in The Guardian in 2009. „There has never been any black person of similar global prominence and recognition who has been publicly known to be gay or bisexual.”
The fierce black activist is not the straight man his Nation of Islam colleagues have claimed. Bruce Perry’s biography Malcolm: The Life of a Man Who Changed Black America details Malcolm’s many same-sex relationships. He even was a sex worker for at least a decade.
Although he married a woman and apparently ended his affairs with men, that does not erase his bisexual identity, and neither will we.
Alexander the Great
Alexander was married three times to women. His first wife was Roxana, daughter of the Sogdian nobleman Oxyartes of Bactria, and he loved her. Then the Persian princesses Stateira II and Parysatis II both became his brides for political reasons.
However, his most meaningful relationship was likely with cavalry commander Hephaestion. A childhood friend who studied with the conquerer under Aristotle, he is believed to have been Alexander’s lover. They were both of noble birth and had received an elite education; Aristotle described the two as “one soul abiding in two bodies.”
When Hephaestion died in 324 B.C., Alexander was in a catatonic state and unable to eat for days. He held an elaborate funeral in Babylon and sent a note to the shrine of Ammon pleading for Hephaestion to receive divine honors. Soon after receiving the news that his request was denied, Alexander died, apparently no longer taking care of his own health.
Billie Joe Armstrong
The rocker is known best for being the front man of Green Day, but he’s also been outspoken about his bisexuality.
In 1995, he told The Advocate, „I think I’ve always been bisexual. I mean, it’s something that I’ve always been interested in. I think people are born bisexual, and it’s just that our parents and society kind of veer us off into this feeling of 'Oh, I can’t.’ They say it’s taboo. It’s ingrained in our heads that it’s bad, when it’s not bad at all. It’s a very beautiful thing.”